An Excuse to Rape?


An Excuse to Rape?

Could pornography be given as a reason for a vicious rape assault on a 5 year old? Apparently yes. The idea has triggered a huge debate in India with Sunny Leone, Indian-Canadian porn star, starred in Jism 2 dragged into limelight for her dual career as a porn-star.

 

Not that I defend pornography in any which way, but for those who believe she should be sent to jail for promoting lascivious material that instigates people specifically for rape, I’d exhort that we should send all the action-heroes to jails as well for promoting aggression and violence in the society.

 

Our society and even those who claim to know about it are still groping in dark about its culture and values and essentially what engenders rape. And so they tend to associate a plentiful of myths and concoctions about the whys and why-nots. 1) Women should avoid revealing dresses and seductive attires that could invite men to rape them or 2) they should not go out alone especially late, as this would increase their chances of being raped, and now it’s pornography, which is linked with rape.

 

 

One could never rule out pornography entirely for being a reason why anyone might rape, but the rule of the thumb says that rape is rarely a crime of passion; it is an act of violence towards women. And the only thing that lures men into raping women is her vulnerability and victimizer’s awareness of the fact that laws are on his side. Also, the fact that since reporting a rape crime would only call for the survivor’s humiliation- thanks to the society that refrains from talking about the taboo-rape, it allows the criminal a safe exit by encouraging the victim into shh-silence.

 

Another common reason why rape is attempted in our region is to avenge the person or her tribe. We sadly belong to a part of world that refuses to give a woman her own identity and to accept her anything other than a fragile object incapable of protecting herself. She’s an object that belongs to her father, brother, husband or even her clan. What better way to punish them than to abduct their thing.

 

For those who believe rape crimes are committed because of sexual frustration or to seek sexual gratifications, the reality is these crimes are pre-meditated and planned for may be weeks, days or even months. They are not just done in a spur or in an impulse, the criminal chalks out a plan that may involve others as well, to execute it and then carry it out.

 

Also,  while following moderate fashion and ethical code may be of several benefits to the wearer,  it should certainly not fall under the precautions  to avoid being raped. For if so, we should lash on the law-enforcement agencies that deny us our right to be free and walk on streets without fearing some beast might devour us to meet his perverted ends.

 

In the end I’d like to mention something that may say it all,

 

“Men should be offended when someone claims that women should prevent rape:

a)      by not wearing certain things

b)      by not going certain places

c)      or not acting in a certain way

 

That line of thinking presumes that you are incapable of control.

That you are so base and uncivilized that it takes extra-ordinary effort for you to walk down the street without raping someone.

 

That you require a certain dress code be maintained,

That certain behaviors be employed so may be today,

Just may be

You won’t rape someone.

 

It presumes that your natural state is RAPIST.

 



Madeeha Ishtiaque

The content writer & person-in-charge of the The News/Geo International Blog. She monitors the social media activity on The News. Follow her on twitter @charmed0000


  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Satyameva-Jayate/100003299017803 Satyameva Jayate

    True. And very simply expressed. Thanks.

  • http://www.facebook.com/sohaibyousuf Sohaib Yousuf

    If you are a Muslim, then please read Surah Ahzab and Surah Noor. It is not the ulemas who have told which clothes to wear and which not. Allah has ordered the dress code which should be obeyed.

    • Haq

      Yeah well by that token, you should put the same sort of emphasis on growing a frigging beard because Allah’s messenger said so. And Allah’s messenger essentially conveys what Allah says. But I don’t see you or any other ulema put the same sort of emphasis on beards when it comes to men. You essentially represent the hypocrisy of Muslim males. You are very keen on educating women about what Allah tells them what to do but you are not so keen on growing a beard yourself and gazing down when women pass by.

      Speaking for myself, I refuse to judge women on the basis of whether she covers her face or not. Who am I to judge someone ? If Allah will judge women simply on the basis of whether they do pardah or not, then by the same logic Muslim males should be judged on the basis whether they have a beard or not.

      • http://www.facebook.com/sohaibyousuf Sohaib Yousuf

        Beard has nothing to do with rape.

      • Hamid Bhai

        Go and learn little bit Islam – Covering of women commandment order is a like a duty (fard) on every woman to oblige to as it is prescribed in Quran (in Surah-e-noor) while having beard is a sunnah and can be avoided. Your comparison b/w the two scenarios is completely baseless and stupid. Yes turning eyes down from looking at na-mehram is fard to man and woman both as it is also mentioned in the same surah for both genders.

      • Ahmad Rafiq

        Dont call Beard ‘Frigging’,,,That is sunnah of Rasul SAW and is beyond your dirty mind and words to say anything like ‘frigging’ to a sunnah. Go and get yourself right first. Illetrate fools like you are ruining the image of Islam because you ahvent studied Islam and are just following on what you hear and see.

        I would give you a punch in the face for using such a word for beloved prophet SAW’s sunnah.

        May Allah guide us all.

      • Ahmad Rafiq

        I would seriously like to know where you live and give you a beating for what you have written for mocking the Sunnah of rasul SAW. We talk about cartoon publishers in west. We have enough idiots in our midst.

  • Farhan

    This writer is out of her mind who doesn’t follow Quran/Sunnah at all, rather criticize people of not controlling themselves, tell me who has a control having so many outward distractions like internet, immoral TV dramas/movies, do you have one ? Allah(swt) has provided all tools to prevent such vicious behavior and you are labeling most men as rapist !!! What a pity on you and your knowledge about our beautiful deen. Lady, Allah(swt) commandment are for the ones for those who think & ponder and you just come up with your idiot analysis without having any knowledge. Do you know rape is a norm in western society in the name of boyfriend to girlfriend or boyfriend to boyfriend or girlfriend to girlfriend. These days even women tend to rape men even more b/c of TV alluring ads, fashion shows where nudity is shown without any limitations and people like you call it ‘FREEDOM’.

  • Hamid Bhai

    “Men should be offended when someone claims that women should prevent rape:
    a) by not wearing certain things
    b) by not going certain place
    c) or not acting in a certain way ”

    Let’s have an example of woman who (a) wears bikini (b) go to any club and (c) dances in front of males and you would expect that no one will approach that woman !! Madeeha, this article of yours clearly shows that you don’t have a single idea what are you upto …

    “That line of thinking presumes that you are incapable of control.”

    Yes as a matter of fact, all human beings are incapable of control. Are you in control ? Your blog also shows that you are out of control..

  • Hamid Bhai

    By the way – madeeha you are on Pakistani newspaper blog not on any western media blog where you talk about pornography so openly !

  • Maryam

    Awesome post,keep up the good work.

  • Shakil Qureshi

    A new topic has emerged for the liberals. In a way a point has been collected to save pornography from absolute criticism that it deserves. A good start to make pornography a valid and morally acceptable profession of the society. And what is wrong with it, after all it is Mehnat ki kamai.

  • Abdullah

    Rape, is a “worst case scenario” that can be prevented to a very good extent by women not revealing their bodies. Some other (less worse) scenarios are: whistling at them, trying to tease them, calling them with vulgar names and so on, which are somewhat evident in our society. These less-worse scenarios, give such men courage to go even beyond their lines and commit this heinous sin that we know as rape. I believe that if women (esp. the ones who are able to express their selves by writing blogs) learn to support hijab, they can play an exemplary role in making our society better and a peaceful place to live. 2. Your religion orders you to wear it, if it is hard for you to actually do it, at least stop going against it!

    In my opinion, raping a 5-year old, should be punishable in the most harsh of ways.

  • Anonymous

    A United Nations statistical report compiled from government sources showed that more than 250,000 cases of male-female rape or attempted rape were recorded by police annually. The reported data covered 65 countries (The Eighth United Nations Survey on Crime Trends and the Operations of Criminal Justice Systems 2001-2002 Table 02.08 Total recorded rapes) America, India, England and France had the highest rate of rape case. According to United States Department of Justice document Criminal Victimization in the United States, there were overall 191,670 victims of rape or sexual assault reported in 2005

    According to the American Medical Association (1995), sexual violence, and rape in particular, is considered the most under-reported violent crime.

    The most common reasons given by victims for not reporting rapes are the belief that it is a personal or private matter, and that they fear reprisal from the assailant. A 2007 government report in England says “Estimates from research suggest that between 75 and 95 percent of rape crimes are never reported to the police.

    Rape does not have to do with area or customs or strictness in the society (as we consider that in Pakistan ) It is the state of mind which can lead to crime even most liberal countries of the world like France, UK and USA.

    We are still better than many civilized countries but to minimizes even these small number of cases here we must give confidence to the victims of secrecy and special police should be made to deal such cases not every one. secondly we need to amend laws and at least life time imprisonment must be proposed in the law.

  • Muhammad Ramzan

    Ms Madeeha, appreciate your efforts of writing. I would request to study religion, also study the facts of societies who are treated to have a “more controlled”. Basically there is a natural phenomena if we wear something strange or did something strange then it would definitely attract another sex. Whether it is being by men —- then automatically it would attract females or vice versa. Did you never heard the statements in western societies so commonly by females for a male like “what a decent personality”, “how charming” etc. So, in fact there is “no control” elsewhere in any society whether you see it analytically in usa or in london or anywhere. This is simple “drama” that you think usa or western countries have granted “freedom” to women. Not not at all, go & search usa markets you would find a market with the word “women for sale” ……….. is this freedom we want for our mothers, sisters, wife, daughters or ourselves ? Study the history and you would find that such cases of “rape” or pornography in our society have NOT been increased due to dress code of women, going alone but these have been increased due to openly available of vulgar videos and their psychological impact of minds. I hope you would take my reply positively and would seriously study the history of us as well as others.

  • S Nasrullah

    Madeeha may have boldly introduced a burning topic, but why must she be criticized and censored for highlighting an ongoing social evil (a social Taboo) that goes unabated and has assumed alarming proportions to disturb the peace and tranquility of our society. In Adam’s fall we sin all. Why forget that Adam and Eve were strictly warned not to taste the forbidden fruit, which they did under prompting and persuasion of the Devil. What happened next, both Adam and Eve were engulfed in lust in their state of nudity and the game of multiplication ensued, since.

    Exhibitionism, Nudity and Pronography orchestrate sexploitation, immorality, immodesty, adultery, and inflame amorous sensitivities. Human endeavors to civilize and adopt cultural code of ethics devised dress to hide bodies to prevent animal instinct in youth from both genders. During the Graduation Festive Night (Proms in USA) in London, I was astonished by the fervor and frenzy of my student fraternity indulging into the Rhapsody of life in all its forms and manifestations in abandon gay on that night.

    Preventive measures that the weaker/fair sex have to voluntarily adopt is for their own safety. It is all very well to hope men would be morally upright and desist the strongest surge of sexual desires. All religions remonstrate against illicit free or forced sex, yet the unruly spikes in the crime chart of Rape denotes the sorry tale of trying to stop the tidal bore with wall of sand.

  • MH Q

    you mean after watching an action movies one will have strong desire and drive to kill some one, just like after watching porn one has strong desire and drive for adultery?what a logic really

    what happened to you madam

  • MH Q

    And one thing is very clear from this article, the writer is lady, and i think quite inexperienced, she does not know how much big difference is between male and female with respect to control and sex drive. by the way
    1. why Islam asked ladies to observe so much parda and not men
    2. parda of men is only between naval button and knees but for women is whole body
    3. why men allowed 4 marriages at a time but women not?
    this all reflects the inner difference which the Creator knows better than u madam

    • http://www.facebook.com/khalid.n.khan.56 Khalid Nabeel Khan

      Awesome Comment Sir. 100 % Agree.

      • sunjian

        Why so many rapists in India? It is hard to imagine in China! May god forgive those barbaric indians

  • Aurangzeb

    Dear Writer: You should avoid writing such stuff as un-like Sunny Leone, we all are hypocrites..

  • Haider

    Allah’s divine laws should be well understood by all of us. Whenever we disturb the fine balance of mother nature we are going to pay for that. Women desire to show her body is like entering into a jungle and still requiring men to stay in the civilized world.This simply cannot happen by virtue of divine laws. Women modesty ensures that she receives the best, pure and most civilized emotions from the opposite sex.

  • Wasim Khan

    Miss. madeeha, Because of girls like your mentality , the islamic womens thinking is going on a wrong way…its only islam if you follow properly can give full rights and protection to a women….but like you few westren funded womens are the main prolem of our society,,,,,,

  • Nadia Mansoor

    you are absolutely right ms madeeha……..as we are a Muslim we have to control our selves as its also a responsibility of maker to avoid producing that type pornographic films or even dramas……yeah its true that type of shows are promoting a sense of obscenity…..that i can say destroy our generation of generations and we cant able to control it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Satyameva-Jayate/100003299017803 Satyameva Jayate

    Reading the comments to this blog by male Muslim readers, I realized hoe pertinent are the questions Dr Tariq Ramadan (Oxford University) has been asking of the 21st Century Muslims:
    “From Asia to North America, the conclusion is inescapable: The contemporary Islamic conscience is in deep crisis. How to be a Muslim today? How to be faithful to one’s principles while remaining open to the world? How can Muslims deal with their diversity and overcome their multiple divisions?”
    “How can Muslim societies create new models of development, education and social justice? Can they imagine economic alternatives? Can the 1,000-year-old
    Islamic civilisation make an original contribution to the concert of cultures and civilisations? Everywhere, Muslim individuals and societies ask themselves the same burning questions,”
    “The crisis drags on; no answer seems in sight. The light at the end of the tunnel seems nothing but an illusion.”
    “The most visible, the most serious signs of the crisis .. can be found in the inversion of means and ends. The obsession with in the inversion
    of means and ends. The obsession with norms transforms them into an
    ultimate goal; they are no longer a means to an end, but the end itself.
    The ESSENCE IS FORGOTTEN.”

  • Najam Zia

    Hi Madeeha!! Surprised by the series of comments by our “righteous” Muslim community? I don’t suppose you are. I mean, what did you expect? Did you expect a current day Muslim, especially of Pakistani background, to logically understand what you are trying to say here?
    Being a Muslim man of Pakistani background, whenever I see someone bringing up something intelligent and then shot down by our “people” in the name of Islam, it just confirms again and again what a pathetic nation we are AND why we are in such dire straits as a nation and Ummah.
    Now I know that my comments are going to attract people, especially Pakistanis, with all guns blazing in the name of Islam and honour and what have you; but guys!! save your time and save mine; DO NOT BOTHER. Being a Pakistani, I really do not have time for my own nation going on about righteousness while apparently being the most corrupt, ignorant, violent, and deceitful nation in the world.
    It is the same again. Do not bring a sensitive issue up. Do not point a finger at us men. The religion which gives a first order as IQRA should turn a blind eye to an educated debate. A debate which is questioning the behavioral aspects of a gender has to be shut down by using Quran’s surahs. There is no need to divulge yourself in the sciences of sociology and psychology. No need to find the avenues from Quran and Islamic scholars to protect half of the world’s population, Women. If a woman gets raped by being a little bit extravagantly dressed so what, she deserves it. She is not related to me. I will enforce my “Islam” with its full force on her. Maulana says woman is Fitna anyway. Great job done by a brother who sexually assaulted her. How can there be a punishment for someone who taught the b***ch a Lesson for dressing wrong. Brother, you carry the flag for this great nation. I will accuse HER. Its her fault. She is Fitna (By the way my mother and sister are not Fitna, I love them and respect them, but SHE surely is. She dresses wrongly).

    God help us all.

    Guys! Are we neanderthals? Is it the question of being liberal? Or in our case being a true Muslim. I tell you from Quran a true Muslim man honours and respects women. A true Muslim man does not think of having sex on a whim with a woman who is dressed modernly. A true Muslim man educates people. A true Muslim man does not assault women. A true muslim man, when even looses temper, is not allowed to hit his own wife with something more than a flower branch by Quran. A true Muslim man, when sees a woman being gang raped on TV in great countryside villages of Pakistan, tries to raise a voice against that rather than declaring it as WESTERN Conspiracy and off course the bi**ch got what she deserved.

    I can go on for ages on this topic but I don’t think it is going to effect anyone in Muslim society of today even one bit. I will be hit by more Surahs of Quran explained in a way that I may loose all the faith and education I have. No one will even try to think that whatever I have written above is from Quran and Sunnah. For personal sins, we will judge women and thrash them. We don not believe that this right is for Allah only.

    So women!! Beware, the Truest religion in the world is not going to protect you if you have worn a western dress.
    We are living in Primitive times. May Allah help us all.
    Madeeha, Great Work. Raise your voice more. Try to educate these people more (Don’t think it’s going to work, but our beloved Prophet (saw) did till it worked).

  • Najam Zia

    Hi Madeeha!! Surprised by the series of comments by our “righteous” Muslim community? I don’t suppose you are. I mean, what did you expect? Did you expect a current day Muslim, especially of Pakistani background, to logically understand what you are trying to say here?
    Being a Muslim man of Pakistani background, whenever I see someone bringing up something intelligent and then shot down by our “people” in the name of Islam, it just confirms again and again what a pathetic nation we are AND why we are in such dire straits as a nation and Ummah.
    Now I know that my comments are going to attract people, especially Pakistanis, with all guns blazing in the name of Islam and honour and what have you; but guys!! save your time and save mine; DO NOT BOTHER. Being a Pakistani, I really do not have time for my own nation going on about righteousness while apparently being the most corrupt, ignorant, violent, and deceitful nation in the world.
    It is the same again. Do not bring a sensitive issue up. Do not point a finger at us men. The religion which gives a first order as IQRA should turn a blind eye to an educated debate. A debate which is questioning the behavioral aspects of a gender has to be shut down by using Quran’s surahs. There is no need to divulge yourself in the sciences of sociology and psychology. No need to find the avenues from Quran and Islamic scholars to protect half of the world’s population, Women. If a woman gets raped by being a little bit extravagantly dressed so what, she deserves it. She is not related to me. I will enforce my “Islam” with its full force on her. Maulana says woman is Fitna anyway. Great job done by a brother who sexually assaulted her. How can there be a punishment for someone who taught the b***ch a Lesson for dressing wrong. Brother, you carry the flag for this great nation. I will accuse HER. Its her fault. She is Fitna (By the way my mother and sister are not Fitna, I love them and respect them, but SHE surely is. She dresses wrongly).

    God help us all.

    Guys! Are we neanderthals? Is it the question of being liberal? Or in our case being a true Muslim. I tell you from Quran a true Muslim man honours and respects women. A true Muslim man does not think of having sex on a whim with a woman who is dressed modernly. A true Muslim man educates people. A true Muslim man does not assault women. A true muslim man, when even looses temper, is not allowed to hit his own wife with something more than a flower branch by Quran. A true Muslim man, when sees a woman being gang raped on TV in great countryside villages of Pakistan, tries to raise a voice against that rather than declaring it as WESTERN Conspiracy and off course the bi**ch got what she deserved.

    I can go on for ages on this topic but I don’t think it is going to effect anyone in Muslim society of today even one bit. I will be hit by more Surahs of Quran explained in a way that I may loose all the faith and education I have. No one will even try to think that whatever I have written above is from Quran and Sunnah. For personal sins, we will judge women and thrash them. We don not believe that this right is for Allah only.

    So women!! Beware, the Truest religion in the world is not going to protect you if you have worn a western dress.
    We are living in Primitive times. May Allah help us all.
    Madeeha, Great Work. Raise your voice more. Try to educate these people more (Don’t think it’s going to work, but our beloved Prophet (saw) did till it worked).

    • M.Saeed

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  • Madiha Taj

    Precisely…

    • Haq

      The male comments on this blog represent male-chauvinism, self-righteousness, and hypocrisy of the highest order. These folks have never seen a regime like the Taliban , where you are forced to grow beards , and you are forced to wear a certain dress code, and you are forced to have your hair cut in a certain way, and if you don’t do so , they flog the hell out of you. It is very convenient for these males to give sermons to women because the society does not judge them using the same claustrophobic standards as it uses for women.

      • NASAH (USA)

        Haq sahib — please call our honorable Muslim male-chauvinists with their ‘real’ name – the Muslim male chauvinist pigs.

        Shouldn’t be surprised if some of the ‘gentlemen’ turn out to be the future ‘Honor’ Killers of the Muslim Khawateen.

        For these morons — women have no free will — no freedom of speech or pen, no pride in their good looks, no superior intellect compared to men — NOT human.

        Because these ugly useless barbarians — the sorry excuse of being men — CANNOT control their LUST — therefore the poor women must cover THEIRS – from head to foot.

        What arrogance!

        Again the women end up carrying the Men’s baggage on their frail shoulders like a slave

        • Mazhar Hussain

          Sounds you like women too much…

  • Irfan Kabli

    If only your parents had thought about getting you properly informed on the religion…
    People are learning things the hard way, what you have been told 1400 years ago..
    For your info, Richard Graham, MP for Gloucester, had recently mentioned how short skirts could act as an invitation to Rape..

    I hope you understand Richard is no mullah and is an MP from the country which you and your family strive to get in by any means!

  • Abu Bakar

    I respect the feelings of the writer and all the women but kindly have a look at the facts and then you can write what you want to

    http://www.globalpost.com/dispatches/globalpost-blogs/quick-click/which-country-has-the-highest-reported-incidents-rape-data

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics

  • Hamid Bhai

    She calls you rapist, do you agree ?

    • Anonymous

      There are no accusations from te author – just an argument against rationalising and somehow condoning rape by blaming the victim….Bhai Sb if it is your kin who suffers, you may have a different outlook….

      I sincerely hope no one has to go through the trauma before realsing how much of an ass they make of themselves by making silly comments without understanding what the point being made is…

      • Mazhar Hussain

        Read it twice there are accusations from author to males only, there are many examples in our distracted society some females ‘invite’ (or seduce) male to rape them or those females rape males in other open places. Author should not have been biased against men only rape is being done from both sides.

    • NASAH (USA)

      Question: “She calls you rapist, do you agree?” What a stupid idiotic question.

      Answer: “That you are so base and uncivilized that it takes extra-ordinary effort for you to walk down the street without raping someone.”

      Do you agree?

      Don’t make up questions where none exists, Hamid Bhai.

  • Hamid Bhai

    From many studies, it is learned that usage of alcohol, nudity, illicit relationship & fornication is on rise in Pakistan (by the way it’s a good news for liberals….and they are happy that Pakistan is being ‘modern’ from their standards…right liberals ?)

    • Vicky

      Whatever, its not as open & pubic. Still people dont think it is a good thing though there are people who drink & do zina and they are happy with it.

      But one thing confuses that what kind of freedom do people ask for? When I look at our society, it has changed & got liberal & developed than what it was 10 years ago. People have learned how to communicate, get dressed (in a presentable manner) & have got educated as well.

      It seems very stupid of a person who asks for freedom while living in cities like Karachi, Lahore & Isb etc.

  • Hamid Bhai

    Direction counts..

  • Haq

    Reading the comments, I’ve realized that Pakistan needs its very own feminist movement. Women in Pakistan will have to rise against male-chauvinism. Mothers will have to inculcate the sense of gender-equality in their children if our women want more freedom, sisters will have to stop towing their brothers’ lines. I believe in the fact that an average male’s understanding of Islam is no different than an average female’s understanding. Our society is patriarchal which is why males will always bring in Quranic verses against women. The Muslim male in our society, while not admitting, still feels that women have no business in workplace. The problem lies with the males and as long as women keep towing the ‘standard’ line, things will not change.

    I say all this despite being a male. I guess I represent a small minority of males who understand and support the author’s point-of-view.

    • Najam Zia

      I admire your courage on sticking with the writer on this issue. You are a minority in Pakistani male society, which by the way is damaged beyond repair.
      We will show you Quranic verses according to our own perverted, twisted, and sexually frustrated mentality on women and gender issues, but no one will talk about burning in hell for HYPOCRISY of our own devious sexual behaviors.
      I also agree with you on Pakistan needing a new movement. Feminist movements have always been around but mostly underground. The movement I would like to introduce is “Get Educated in true meaning of Education”. That may lead to a better understanding of Quran and modern social sciences.
      At the moment, all I see is people with no vision and ideas about intra society human relations and interaction commenting on these sensitive issues “in the light of Quran” according to their own little understanding.
      Any discussion on gender equality somehow becomes a sexual issue for this society. We are flag bearers of Parda and Haya. You just have to see how men in our society undress passerby women with their eyes in the street. You just have to hear filthy jokes and ideas about women in our stage dramas. And if you try to address this issue with them, the answer will be according to this and that verse, woman should not be doing this or that. In other words we will defend our sexual frustration and perversion behind the orders of religion.
      Education is NEEDED.

  • Haq

    You have hit the heart of the issue. Male hypocrisy has gotten so bad that even a male like me who has had a fairly conservative upbringing is totally fed up. Their would at-least be an element of gender fairness , albeit ludicrousness, if these ‘flag-bearers of religion’ would pursue their beardless fellow male hunks with the same zeal. Alas, even that’s not the case. This sort of thinking is reinforced almost every Friday in the mosque with the Maulvi telling where the place of a woman belongs in a Muslim society : the house, and more specifically, the kitchen. This particular narrative gets fed to males and females from various sources, even from their mothers and older sisters.

    Women will have to claim the right of personal liberty through collective efforts. You won’t find many takers among the males, especially because feminist ideas are viewed negatively even by many ‘enlightened’ scholars such as Ghamidi.
    It’s a tough road , but everything begins with a single step.

  • M.Saeed

    Writer has taken a very bold step in highlighting the blistering subject considered an untalkable taboo in our society. It is such a hated word that, even the authorities established to control and put it on harness, avoid it as an untouchable plague. Therefore, it has become the most underreported violent crime in our society.
    Internationally, “Rape” is recognized as one of the crimes against humanity. But in our own context, the mere stigma of a rape causes untold traumatization of its victim resulting in catastrophic manifestations particularly from the victim’s own family. In order to tackle the aping-brute by the horns, we need to address and remove practical hurdles in the way, most important of which is the taboo-word “Rape” in need of an acceptable but sufficiently descripted alternative. Some of the world’s concerned Governments have replaced the word “Rape” in their legal books as follows:-
    “A physical invasion of a sexual nature committed on a person under circumstances which are coercive.”
    Or, phased it out and replaced with “sexual assault” or , “criminal sexual conduct by means of fraudulent machination.”

    • Anonymous

      A rose by any other name……..

  • http://www.facebook.com/hammad.aslam.370 Hammad Aslam

    the lady is just beating about the bush…the word “Aurat” itself means “pardah” or “haya”

  • Kashif Ramzan

    I think writer should say good bye to Pakistan and try some other country for enjoying freedom. why the writer not asking for punishment to the accuse persons, i think she also wants freedom for them….if you want to see the freedom of women plz visit your nearest markets in lahore Islamabad and karachi

  • sunjian

    If you are a Muslim, then please read Surah Ahzab and Surah Noor. It is not the ulemas who have told which clothes to wear and which not. Allah has ordered the dress code which should be obeyed.

  • sunjian

    支持巴铁!打到印度

  • sunjian

    I am from China ordinary people! Support for Pakistan brothers! Out of India

  • sunjian

    I am from China ordinary people! Support for Pakistan brothers! Hope to contact with you! But

  • Roohan Ahmed

    Well written ! These things are need to be addressed

  • sunjian

    India’s democracy

  • Ahmad Rafiq

    Someone register blasphemy case against this writer plz :D

  • Ahmad Rafiq

    Either this writer is the most stupid girl on planet or she writes such idiot articles exposing her ZERO knowledge of Islam and shariah so that she can get many views for her articles.

    Either case it is pathetic and disgusting.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Zubair-Ahmed/100000831656185 Zubair Ahmed

      Is there any Islamic knowledge too , LOL

    • Anonymous

      It is right, but she is not stupid because these kind of girls or women do this purposely to be recognized as moderns in society. They don’t have any knowledge of Islam but they born in Muslim’s home and got Muslim Name only.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Zubair-Ahmed/100000831656185 Zubair Ahmed

    Allah has ordered so many more things , like , interest, like denial to seek loans from Zionist , why single out on women dress , it is a sickness , sticking with Muslims for too long , Slavery and whatever is in your right hand . ?

  • Anonymous

    “Well, the question is not how men can be controlled to rape a women but more important why these ladies catwalk….”

    I guess some men are too weak to control their urges and have not evolved as human beings even with the knowledge of The Quran……….so its easier to pass t buck and blame it on the ladies and their dress sense. Self respecting men will not be bringing in the Quran to justify a frankly silly argument……

    Control your own actions and ‘nafs’ as you do not have the right over others’ actions unless they transgress upon you in some manner.

  • Farooq Hashmi

    I wonder why our favorite satirist, Dr.NASAH is not appearing on the Blog Forum these days. I hope he is hale and hearty.

    • Mazhar Hussain

      He (NASAH) must be busy on Imran Khan’s campaign for ‘NAYA Pakistan’ :)

  • S Shah

    Dear Madiha, you perhaps need to read Freud’s structural model of psyche or may be since you are not from the subject gender, it wont be easy to understand this chemistry.

  • S Shah

    She apparently does not have any knowledge of psychology. Rape is a subject of human psychology. In a separate comment I recommended her to study structural model of psyche by Freud. Though we do not take everything by Freud as authentic but in general it defines the human id, ego, super ego and instincts in a good way. .

    • http://www.facebook.com/obaidullah2150 Sonu Nigam Khan

      Totally agree with you

  • S Shah

    This is not a funny topic.Will you comment this way if your wife or sister goes through this?.

  • S Shah

    hahhahaha, fully agreed. These women researched do not understand the fact that like hunger, sexual ability and control of different males is different. Some people can not remain without food for a few hours no matter how much civilized and educated they are when you offer them food, they will start eating like a beast.. So in the same way if you offer them their sexual food, do not complain then.

  • Anonymous

    Are you suggesting The Quran allows condones and allows mitigation of rape by men becuase the raped woman was provocatively dressed?! Do enlighten where inThe Quran is rape justified…..perhaps time read your scriptures again and understand them too instead of using them as a crutch to justify a lame and disgusting argument that some how all blame for rape should be assigned to the victim and the perpetrator can rely on some holy argument which does not exist.

  • Vicky

    Saeed Sb, I agree with you completely. But there are some people here who think that the west is much better for women which allows them to dress by choice but still stay safe from being raped. For them Islam is outdated & muslim societies are very insecure for the freedom of women. But the truth is that they lack from the real knowledge of islam. They just believe on what is shown on the news about Taliban extremist but the reality is opposite.

  • Rehan

    Why women feel ashamed to cover their body and think its an attack on their right of showing like men do? Is it a jealousy of a feeling of being inferior and they think by showing their body and acting like men they will be considered as “Accepted” otherwise “Rejected”. How such feeling popped up?? Whereas go back to history, women in all cultures used to cover up their bodies. Even the Arabic word “Aurat” means “hidden thing” then why we don’t want to understand and digest it? Why we think its a snatch of right to show?

    To the author, with due respect, I think you want to say that men should have no feelings about women if they see them in awkward form, they should be indifferent what’s going on around them even something bad which religion prohibits, then I think you should review your thinking and get some insight on religion and social structure of Muslims. For your information, the highest rate of rape is in America the most sophisticated nation of the world in your view point and the lowest rate is in Saudi Arabia.

    Its not possible to stop flies on an open sweet dish, either kill the flies and keep on killing or cover the pot – Choice is yours, act is yours.