To be born without a Y chromosome brings lots of complications and issues. We live in a world in which women have come very far in
various fields but still old age traditions often tend to be setbacks for them.
Marriage is not just something required to survive personally and socially but being Muslims is also our religious obligation. There is
no specific age mentioned in Islam to get married, but like most things our society has a way of portraying Islam as a religion
As soon as a woman reaches her twenty- in most backward parts it might just be as soon as she reaches puberty- her parents start
worrying over a suitable match. I have often asked myself why parents don’t get the same idea about their sons. Whenever this issue has been raised in casual discussions about our wayward society; and I have asked the very same question, I was treated to many lame
The first most common answer was that after a woman turns thirty, her chances to be liked by a man and her hand to be asked in marriage reduces badly. Why because she is considered not to be young anymore. Again my mind which has always failed to understand this society raises another question; why is it necessary to be young to get married?
To that I got the second most common answer which particularly makes my blood pressure rise. They said the younger the woman the more she’ll be able to bear children. Yes I agree everybody wants to have children, they are joy of one’s life, and that yes the older the
woman gets the more she is at risk of having complications. But I ask is that all marriage is about; having legal sex and producing
children? Why don’t we seek a marriage beyond that? Why can’t marriage be more about eternal mutual bliss and a life long
We gave women a lot of rights, but still hold them oppressed in many other ways. We display them as an item for the families who bring the ‘rishta’. The tradition of seeking brides is so over rated that sometimes I feel like suggesting women to make CV’s to get married.
Why aren’t men subjected to same age issue and the scrutiny? They say men get more mature and responsible with age. I don’t know
if that is a natural thing or one of those things that our society has encouraged men to believe in. Sure it is necessary to be mature enough to step in something as serious as marriage but why the woman needs to be young and beautiful?
I believe that there are many women out there like me who don’t want to get married that soon. There are many reasons, they might want to have more education; they might want to experience life independently for a while longer and so on. This society needs to
change its traditions, traditions that hold no value. We need to consider that a woman might have expectations from her life just like
a man. A woman sacrifices much more with marriage than a man. We need to understand that she might want to fulfill those expectations before she gets married.
Moreover marriage should be treated as a covenant rather than a contract that legalizes it to have babies. While seeking wives for
your sons seek more than just youth and beauty, seek an equal for your son.