That Child Could be Saved!


That Child Could be Saved!

It’s well understood that “Thou shalt not kill,” but to understand “Thou shalt not allow the kill,” is a key to prevent suicide. Understanding behavior is the most challenging job but it can make a huge difference in preventing something as ghastly as ‘Suicide’.

 

Suicide is surely such a grave and overly complex phenomenon and it really doesn’t stand a simple explanation to why a person chose to take his life. Many ethical questions and behavior analysis involves the study of suicide.

 

A common myth about suicide is that “suicide is committed without warning.”

 

Absolutely not the case! People usually give numerous warnings, saying that the world could be a better place without me and by the gradual and sometimes gradual sudden changes in their attitudes socially and emotionally.

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I strongly feel that the life of the 15-year-old student, Tariq who committed suicide at his residence; for the fear of his parents scolding him for failing exams could be saved if only parent and teachers would be more understanding and engaged in frequent healthy talks.

 

Tariq’s attitude and behavior before his suicide must have changed and hinted his intentions for taking this sorry step. Parents should not be so demanding on their kids, for not every child can take pressure well.

 

In this case if we disregard the socio-culture and neurobiological model its a psychological model case of suicide where the child strongly felt disengaged with the family to share his issues at school and had set high goals for himself which were unattainable (overpowering parental demands).

 

However Tariq, failing in his exams caused him to blame himself for not achieving the set goals. Research has always been consistent with the idea that failure in attaining goals and self-blame also contributes to the death-desire.

 

Sometimes its not easy to speak to parents but then children should have an option to turn around for help in forms of counselors, mentors, community help centers or self-help groups.

All the more reason why schools should have counselors and mentoring programs; it’s only to make sure students learning in their institution are emotionally and socially healthy.



Sumeeta Afzal

The head of programs for an NGO working for child welfare


  • Sania Ahmed

    Its an eye opener for all such parents who always want their child to come first! They should know that if they want good results from their children, their child must be in a healthy state of mind. What happened with Tariq is extremely sad..if parents do not stop imposing their wishes over their children, who knows how many more Tariqs will take their own lives..

    Pharm.D University of Karachi

  • BRR

    Rather unrealistic to expect schools to have counselors, advisors, like they do in the the US (the evil west in general). If the parents had been more understanding perhaps, and the child better able to communicate, things would perhaps have been different. The culprit is the culture where children are abused and not allowed to speak up, and their opinions don’t count.

  • nina

    hmm parents are responsible for all this,actually they expect too much from there child to be a toper in his class or he should have A* throughout subjects..parents should develop a friendly relation with there kids that they can share all there problems, if its related with studies or other social issues…nd to understand child’s psychology.