Why Men Love Bitches?


Why Men Love Bitches?

By consensus, it might easily be declared as one of the most popular questions of the century.   A query every girl seeks an answer for. You would find the bit-too-sweet and giving kind engaged in the discussion more often so, especially each time the sultry-sassy-meaner combination steals the ‘share’ away. And so, Sherry Argov in her book ‘‘Why Men Love Bitches- From a Doormat to a Dream girl, A woman’s guide to holding her Own in the relationships’ rightly decided to satisfy the kind each bit, by roaring out loud that Bi*** is the way to be!

 

Warning: The national bestseller asks you to be a bi***, and not look like one or accentuate the characteristic traits a bit too loud, only to turn the tables on you. And so those who commit a slip in understanding may surely end up in a loss-loss situation.

 

Some of the golden B-rules it preaches and their downsides (according to my view)are:

 

In Mystery Lies Attraction:

 

-Be unpredictable. Men are in love with mystery, solving puzzles and fixing things. Revealing everything about yourself might just kill the mystery and so murder the attraction. Remember, Edward can’t read Bella’s mind. That’s what makes her his soul mate.

 

Downside: If he’s less than an average Sherlock Holmes, he might just end up reading a suspense novel instead of unweaving the women’s mystery knots. A woman too hard to understand might just exhaust an average Shahrukh Khan alot, and so chances are that he may simply switch his interests.

 

Eagerness to Please Equals Kiss of Death:

 

-A needy demeanor is rarely showcased in rags, a bit too much of sugar might just show it right. Willingness to overcompensate, to offer a four-course lunch for a glass of cold drink only helps you turn him into a vampire, feeding on the last drop of blood and then dumping you in the near-by-garbage can. (Remember Vampire Diaries!)

 

Downside: He may think you’re too mean and ungiving to share life with and might just be a bad cook as well – who will take a slide up from his stomach to his heart then? You may also be labeled as Phoohar.

 

Be a Prize, and he will Contest to Win You:

 

‘Act like a prize’ Make him believe through your attitude that you are worth a billion and he will be hypnotically drawn to you. If you don’t believe in your value, how will the world and your man believe in it?

 

Downside: Do you mean, cup flaunts itself to be a trophy? If yes, then what if it strikes twelve before the final show off and you could no longer trick him into believing in your charms? Then he might just be as puzzled about your attitude as you yourself would be.

 

No Emotional Drama, And You Have the Control:

 

Which equals attraction. Why do you need to wail and cry? To let him have the sense of power and control over you? No. Stay composed and hold on. Reacting to his mistreatments would only tempt him to tease you more.

 

Downside: Alternative: Act cold, unwomanly, and inhumane? If he’s an attention-seeker, like most men are, you have thoroughly disappointed him then. Aphorism has it that woman’s tears work like magic and are her deadly weapons against man’s stubbornness. Should we then discard the century-old tactic ?

 

Don’t be his Routine, be his Pleasure:

 

If a lot of predictability or let’s say monotony has crept into your relationship, you may just become an obligation for him that he has to discharge. Don’t let yourself be one, as it will snub the spark that keeps the relationship going.

 

Downside: What are you? A videogame? Or your relationship with him is some sort of a mind game? If you have the strength to keep the challenge ripe, go for it.

 

Of all the women around me who followed this book religiously ironically ended up losing their relationships. May be they acted a bit too b*****, or may be men in our part of the world need women to inflate their male-egos, that only doormats do and dreamgirls don’t. And so may be that’s why, most of the dreamgirls I have met are single and still steady in their battle to fight off their single hood. Go girls, but remember, may be the man you are born for, isn’t born yet ;)

 

 

 

 



Madeeha Ishtiaque

The content writer & person-in-charge of the The News/Geo International Blog. She monitors the social media activity on The News. Follow her on twitter @charmed0000


  • S Nasrullah

    As a corollary to the write-up, imagine a scenario wherein the Beautiful Princess is locked in a eerie dungeon atop the haunted castle with no doors or windows and then the warring Prince Charming comes to the rescue and the Princess – literally, lets her hair down for the Prince to climb up and rescue her bravely battling with demons and witches and the wicked sorcerers.

    Come on now! The elders have always held that a man’s door to his heart passes through his stomach. A good cook is a safe bet. Beauty is natural superiority. So a man would fancy for the beautiful of face. Character is the lasting prowess of anyone. Man then turns his thoughts for the righteous person. For a life partner to be worth its salt, she must be educated and enlightened to give the man the platonic company. A Femme Fatale must tantalize her man before succumbing to his desires. Men often feel the agonizing turns of events as scaling the Mount Everest with all its hazards. Eventually, it is noticed, men have settled down in life to average material girl with munificence of conceit. Frankly I have known many young men who start with perfect profiles and end by adopting useful professions. The youth who thought he saw a diamond lying on the ground; and the Age looked at it to find it a piece of glass.

    The short-lived marriages and the imminent divorces have made it abundantly clear that a perfect marriage is between a dumb woman and a blind man. To end the discourse, let me say that Marriage is a Romantic Book in which the Hero dies in the First Chapter.

  • Ujala

    Men want women to be robots. They want to play on their own discretion. A relationship is started because man want it and ended up because you are not needed anymore. Harsh but true reality.

  • M.Saeed

    Let me remind you Madeeha, every lust is enticed with sin. And, youthful eye blinds the sense of sin. But, it is equally a test of real faith in humanity. It is not easy to see the bitterness rolled below the sugar-coated glittering sight blinded by desire. It is a Herculean task to divert one’s vicious appetite and supplant lust with reason.

    “Lust is an enemy to the purse, a foe to the person, a canker to the mind, a corrosive to the conscience, a weakness of the wit, a besotter of the senses, and finally, a mortal bane to all the body”.

  • Atr30pk

    i think most nice men also feel that women always like bad guys but some men feel they can use girls and through them like dirty women.Women should get more smarter.

  • muhammad Asadullah Bajwa

    nice written……i like brave gals but do’t emphasize on controlling me so much….AS I AM UNCONTROLLABLE!………..As per my experiences,EMOTIONAL GUYZ (as they are very common)will surely be handeled by these techniques…BUT BE A BIT CAREFUL WHEN DEALING WITH MATURE ONES!
    REGARDS

  • Taj Ahmad

    All women in the world are bitches and live longer, the reason behind it
    when Angel take their picture during the day time, they all well dressed
    and their faces well colored with different kind of make-up and lipstick,
    when the same Angel come at night to take their soul, they looked different
    and colorless, Angel gets confused and go back to his duty place, this
    is how our women dodged Angel and live longer.
    My advice to all women, please leave your natural beauty as it is,
    and without any make-up and lipstick, you will look more pretty and natural.
    Most men in the world, likes women without a make-up and lipstick.

    • Sanaa

      Taj I guess a lot of women have rejected you thats why u r so bitter lol

  • Taj Ahmad

    All women should follow Hollywood Star Anna Lynne McCord example
    as she takes stand against “Hollywood’s perfection requirement”
    and want to go makeup-free face in her movies.
    Good job Anna, you will looked perfectly natural beauty in all your
    future movies.

  • Maryamkyshwer

    yeah they do love bitches all of them, but some just cant have one for wife as they them selves are dogs…. they jerky ones end up with bitches though…..

  • Anonymous

    I don’t think any man finds a “bi_ch” desirable ANYWHERE in this world. The book you are quoting is dated and obscure so 2004! that is a lifetime away. Men like women who are (the same or better than their men in the following):
    (1) smart
    (2) well read and educated in a relevant field
    (3) tall and fair and beautiful (like all those pretty ladies from Northern Europe, Russia and North America).
    (4) frugal (or thrifty) or economical when it comes to saving money and investing in useful things (again smart)
    (5) who are loving towards their children and their husband
    (6) who are upright and forgiving and kind and charitable and virtuous
    (7) they have wholesome habits like showering every day (twice a day in hot places) , brushing flossing teeth, eating healthy; get physicals every year and visit the dentist twice a year for a complete inspection.
    (8) are physically fit , run, swim and do aerobic symmetric exercises which keep them slim, fit
    (9) have beautiful blonde / red hair and blue /green eyes (there ways of getting/evolving into these attributes NATURALLY even if you are born dark haired and dark eyed).
    (10) advocate love and prosperity and happiness for all people and encourage their men towards love and education and virtue (as opposed to warfare, fighting, vice, crime, illiteracy etc.)

    • Sanaa

      What on earth are you talking about? There is no such woman as u have described… they are humans living on earth not angels! :P

    • Naser

      Now this is a wonderful reply

  • khan

    may her soul rest in peace…

  • drjozy

    one thing writer is ignoring is the region where these rules work. it might be right in western culture, but i assure you that white guys love to f–k the b—ches, or use them for commercial purpose but majority of them dont want them as their life partner, as long as pakistan is concerned, its totally different story and not a single rule apply here, its totally reverse situation.

    • A Pakistani

      You are right but some people are trying their best to destroy our culture and values. I believe co-education is one of the enabling factors.

  • Anonymous

    You should not have been allowed to make such nasty statements in here.

  • JD Wordsmith

    Gone are the days men fancied for bitches. the role has been aptly assumed by the Begums and ‘Mrs’s’ galore. Now they act more wantonly than bitches. You tell me!

  • Asher Ghzzaal

    some things I noticed in years. All uneducated women are best wives, mothers and sisters. There is no golden rule in relationship. Because every human being is different so it depends how much you love and differ each other. Balance between these two factors makes a healthy relation.

  • Naser

    This article makes me wonder whose interest are being served by the author…….Such articles were the theme of Playboy ( must be an inspiration for the author) magazine to bring in the self deceiving feminism which made women more of a material possession or object rather than a human with a soul………Look at what has happened to the american society which survives on a staple diet of such articles , movies , TV shows ……etc and all other media which encourage women to be inspired to stoop to that low level……..the ending statement is perfect ………..You are dragging them to hell of a life…….you should feel a sense of responsibility as a Human & Muslim & Pakistani and how did I miss it … a woman

  • Noor

    Lady! you need at least three lives to understand men.

    You think you know them, they are playing hell out of you women & you don’t even realize.
    Even the most modern & civilized societies still see you as body parts, and not full fledged humans like men!

  • Mahmood Saleem

    what you want to know would you like to tell me miss