Tau Paida Kyun Karte Ho ……!

Tau Paida Kyun Karte Ho ……!

Khila naheen sakte tau paida kyoon karte ho……? (Must you bring a life into this world when you are unable to feed?) I am still wondering who this question is directed to.

This recklessly forceful reverberation is from the blockbuster conceived and brought to the silver screen by the indubitably intrepid Shoaib Mansoor. Hats off to this vanguard for bringing to the world attention a decidedly sensitive and germane issue with a level of honesty that even the most dauntless would think twice to take credits for.

No, I have no intention to desecrate this space by churning out a movie review. Besides, I have yet to watch this controversy-stirring flick.

For discerning Pakistanis and others who are sensitive enough, the echo that this write-up opens with, hits perfect notes in the backdrop of sharply depleting resources of the country we call the Islamic Republic of Pakistan.

As a student of economics I had learnt that air and water were free goods. But as we know that good times tick away with fleeting pace. It was as if somebody hit a fast-forward button and brought us to the present day where even a glass of clean potable water now comes with a jeering price tag on it. And what is even more shocking is the fact that the onus of the current state of affairs falls squarely on us.

I asked a colleague in office ‘Why do we have children?’ followed by ‘What number is a must to have?’ He confidently replied, “We have kids because they are a source of real joy and satisfaction. We should have at least three-four children so that they can support each other especially when they grow up.”

My next question was: “Can we provide three-four children with up-to-the-standard education and all other things deemed necessary in today’s world where individuals are generally seen through a lens coated with materialistic tint?”

He replied and this is the same answer that majority of people would come up with: ‘You don’t have to worry too much about it ………kyon ke bachay tau pal hi jatey hain !!!….. palnay wala tau woh (Allah) hai (children get brought up somehow or the other …. Allah looks after us all)’.

The above replies, having numerous aspects, can generate a huge debate, but I would confine it to the last one – Bachay tau pal hi jatay hain …. Palnay wala tau woh (Allah) hai. These are not just words, they represent a highly disturbing mindset or rather a trend that our society has been following for generations with criminal complacency, with no questions asked. Bachay tau pal hi jatay hain. Are we talking about kittens, puppies or chicks. Not at all. Bachay means the most innocent human beings, the veritable angels. So, could there be a more cruel utterance than this: It is not your job to think how your children will grow up; this responsibility lies with the nature. Your job is to give birth and then leave everything up to the Almighty.

Believe it or not, this approach is, to a larger extent, responsible for the state of desperation and despondency that our nation today finds itself deeply plunged into.

Normally, we find ourselves constantly planning to maintain a balance between resources available at our disposal and our needs ordered in a carefully prioritized list. How all of us, invariably, put things to paper every month or go over a list in our mind a dozen times to ensure we don’t run into a deficit; or prepare months or weeks before exams or interviews; or plan on the pettiest thing, such as, reaching the office the following day on time.

But most unfortunately when it comes to having children, the overwhelming majority of our “faithful” population defies all forms of logic and leaves it all up to the divine powers.

Ours is a very basic economic problem that is getting worse by every passing day – ‘Too many people chasing too few goods.’ In order to grasp the gravity of the issue at hand we should take Pakistan not as a country but as a resource-strapped home to 180 million people. A home where the number of members is rising every minute while its income is almost stagnant.

This is a race between a turtle (income) and rabbit (rate of population). It represents a yawning gap but what is more disconcerting is the fact that it is only widening with time.

However, I am firm in my conviction that it is still not too late to turn things around. But this would entail a paradigm shift in the way we think and in the manner we deal with the matter to which the parents should ideally attach highest level of significance. Can there be any other consideration that merits greater importance for parents than planning a family?

The argument here is certainly not about having more or less number of children. The question really is: Can we do justice to the highly arduous job of bringing up kids? The parents must ask themselves if they are resourceful enough to fulfill all the legitimate needs and wishes of their yet to be conceived child. And if the answer is yes, then there is no reason why they should not go ahead with it. But in case the answer is negative, then………………………………..You bet!!!

Mazhar Bughio can be followed on Twitter @mazharbughio

Mazhar Bughio

Web journalist/ writer associated with Geo News/ The News International.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/LuckyMSQ Mohammad Salman Qureshi

    I personally 100% disagree with you and your Question what you wanna ask with all the parents. I also do not want to quote some Ayats here to start debate on Islam or what you called Islamic Republic of Pakistan.

    My questions with you and the parents who are resourceful enough are :
    1- Its enough for you to have a child ?
    2 – Do you explain your resource / resourcefulness ?
    3- Will you have time to guide and train your child in making him a gentlemen ?
    usually resourceful persons do not have time for family.

    I just want to mention that “I am not the one who is resourceful enough to fulfill even a single legitimate need or wish of my children but Allah. I also know that I cannot change those minds who believe ” not to have child only the fear of poverty.

    In the end, we must all put our faith and trust in Allah, and ask His guidance and forgiveness in any decisions we make.
    And Allah knows best.

    • http://www.geo.tv Mazhar Bughio

      If what you are saying is true then tell me just one thing: why is it that per day per capita income of 50 percent population of Pakistan (90 million people) is just 2 dollars? Why such a large number of people are living in poverty or below poverty line?

      • http://www.facebook.com/LuckyMSQ Mohammad Salman Qureshi

        Thanks for your reply,
        This per capita income and poverty or even below poverty line are not cause of 90 million people (50% population) This is cause of our system, Inflation, bad governess, Adulteration, Corruption, Johoot, ieza, boghiz, ghibat aur woh tamam bimariyan jo hamaray sino main hain.

        Believe me Ressk, Izzaat-Zillat aur Mout-Zindagi, ya sub Allah Nay Apnay Haat main Rakha hai per capita income say iska koi taaloq nahee.

        Whatever you believe but Trust in you GOD!

        • http://www.geo.tv Mazhar Bughio

          Thanks for your comment.

          Take Pakistan as a home whose income is almost stagnant and the family members are increasing at an alarming rate. Turtle (income) chasing Rabbit (population). The result is poverty, unemployment, crime, sense of deprivation, psychological issues, diseases, the list of problems goes on and on….

          Leaving all this up to Allah will never solve our problems. If Allah alone had to resolve all these problems that we are facing today, then these issues would not have existed at all.

          Tell me, will you launch a new website without making a comprehensive plan for it? Without ensuring that you have all the resources required to maintain it and then improve it further along the time.

          Failing to plan is planning to fail, isn’t it?

  • Sadasd

    kya baat hy..!

  • Mobin18

    Good one !

  • Jayseport


  • http://twitter.com/AsifAmeer_AP AsifAmeer

    I absolutely agree with Jayseport. Its “his” life! But for “him” to learn from his own action, lets end “Socialism” or we will end up make “Too big to fail” out of poor ppl making dumb decisions. Hi-fi Jayseport!