What might seems to be a clichéd issue ranted over by a group of head cocking women labeled feminists, happens to be a hugely chronicled, less deliberated and widely witnessed tale of cruelty against the ‘weaker gender’. It’s been quite a while since this issue has been brought to focus yet every measure to protect women from this vicious circle of violence has been vetoed by the proponents of male dominance.
As a man is given a naturally superior position to women, the effective tool in exercising this superiority lies in snubbing and stifling a woman’s being and trampling her very existence. While there are many who perceive this to be acts of physical violence only, it is a complete package with both physical and mental torment. What comes under its ambit ranges from forced prostitution to bashing the women, sexual abuse (rape and also marital rape), unnecessarily limiting her freedom and also includes threatening and intimidating her at work place and at educational institutes. And these are only broad categories, there’s a list of acts that falls under violence against women committed by even the so-called liberals and modernists as well as uneducated, rural men. Realistically speaking, we all women have undergone and are still undergoing one or the other forms of violence as a staple feed around the clock without even realizing our own sufferings.
Quoting Ansar Barney’s trust statistics, as many as 70 percent Pakistani women experience domestic violence, and where some cases are reported and registered, others are nipped in bud accepting it a routine part of male dominance. Another feature of Pakistani society is the high dowry-death rate where a woman is tortured and driven to suicide by continuous psycological assaults and pressure for more dowry. Sometimes, a women is even burnt on fire for not meeting the dowry-expectations of the in-laws. This is termed as ‘bride burning’. This is more prevalent in rural areas, however, such cases have been reported in the cities and urban centers as well.
One aspect worth noting is a woman’s sexuality is husbanded by her family, primarily the fathers, brothers and even sons. Any threat to this is dealt with all the strictness and severity. There are tribes in Pakistan who temper with their girls’ genitals to prevent pre marital sex and ensure their virginity at the time of marriage. In our society women are considered mere objects to satisfy and boost male ego. It seems as if men inflate their self respect and sense of superiority by degrading, belittling and committing violence against women. Any resistance from women folks is considered to be their arrogance and even categorized as a sign of bad character and ill breeding. Women are brainwashed into believing that men have all the rights to govern, rule and even hurt them psychologically and physically. And where the idea of men being protective and gentle for their women still attracts fancy, this notion is always understood otherwise.
How a change can be brought about is still oblivious, yet a step towards resolving it begins with acknowledging the existence of the issue. It is even more sad, that leave men who are the victimizer here, even the victim never realizes that any wrong is being done to her. Our women keep on putting up with every injustice and savageness thinking its but their fate as women to go through it.